"This Couple Is Married, Just Not To Each Other" Another Marriage Equality Rant

"Politicians care about the next election. 

Leaders care about the next generation."

I saw this on a bumper sticker in front of me as I drove to work and felt cranky about the NY State defeat of marriage equality.  Where are the other Diane Savino-like people who understand the difference between sacramental and civil marriage and the right to equality?

Clearly we have tons of politicians and few leaders. Will no one take the risk to stand up and speak to prejudice and inequality?  I think I see the return of the label from my old blog, borrowed from the brilliant Suzy... Jesus, I'm sick of these people.

Before I get going, let me address anyone who might not be so anti-gay marriage but who just can't quite get their arms around it either. To them I say, you may think that you don't know any gay folks... I am sure you do. You may think it is weird because you focus on the sex and not the love. You may think it is dangerous. You need to go meet some gay people with families and you will find a very different story. That and you need to consider watching this movie.



Of course we also had to swallow the bitter pill of loss as we held onto our aching heads and clutched our breaking hearts as we listened to a soundtrack of "take your name off your phone."  Poof. Be gone do-gooder-cheaters, be gone! I could care less about your sexual morality, so please do me the favor of not getting up in mine or the morality of others.

What is it with this myth of the "sanctity of marriage?" I am so over it! Sanctity of marriage, sacramental or civil, comes from the eye and the heart of the beholders, not from law.

There is no hard and fast rule to why people remain loyal in their relationships. As it stands today, there is very little in our culture or society that encourages loyalty, fidelity and community. From job security to health care, from tax reform to tea baggers we see this. Consider also the endless barrage of advertising that points us to the "next great thing" that we *must* possess, there is an underlying but clear message that what we have has no worth and this "next" thing will be the one to bring us happiness. There is no happiness, there is just the next. There is no fidelity either and I do not say that with in some high minded overarching voice, it is just sadly true.

Now the shadow side of loyalty is a false loyalty that encourages people to stay in all kinds of bad relationships and that is not good either. In fact that is very dangerous, especially when the relationship is abusive. Loyalty - blind loyalty is not any better than the lack of it really.

So now back to the whole issue of marriage equality... Everyone on the right, from politicians who only care about the next vote and the so-called upstanding members of society who think that same-sex marriage will encourage bestiality are beating the drum of "one-man-one-woman" over and over again. And yes, I know who else is screaming about this and rejoicing over the NY state and all other marriage equality losses.

As if this were not enough, somebody I know and love introduced me to this company. I clearly missed some advertising and PR boat, as I had never heard of them before.

Ah yes - the sanctity of marriage alright. This couple is married... just not to each other.


This couple is not married, but they would like to be if you would stay out of their business.