And in fact, to even call it a disagreement is a misnomer. Things went wrong, I got angry, phone calls were made.
In any case, I said this to the other person after the dust was settling, I had already said that I was very sorry for my behavior. She said that she was sorry. OK, we were both sorry, but both still feeling poorly I think. I know that I was!
How can the Body of Christ have integrity at this point?
This is what I offered her - and what I offered myself. It comes not from me!
"That is what it is to be church together... we all bring our wounds to the party. It is what we do with them and each other that transforms us. We are ever being transformed. I am grateful to be church with you."
I am grateful to be church with so many people. That is the easy part. How do we actually live with each other, transform one another and ourselves?
On Tuesday I got into some conversations on Facebook and via email about a challenging topic. One of those (email) conversations resulted in me saying:
I hear you, but as I see it, at some point we have to step out of our own willfulness and into willingness, even if the others do not. I have tried but I got clobbered.